Friends and Family Getting on My Nerves About The Look of My Child!!!!!!!!!!?

My fiance Dan and I have been together for 4 years and we have a one year old son together :)!!!!!!!!! My fiance is 28 and I am 24 and this is our first child. Well ever since I was about 6 months pregnant with my son people in my family and my friends had/have really gotten on my nerves about the appearance of our son and his personality. I'll start with my family..............mainly it's my mom when I was pregnant my mom would always sit there and tell me 'You know that baby is just as much as yours as it is mine," and that really bothered me when she said that. She would get on my case about everything when I was pregnant about how I ate and what I was buying for the baby and in my opinion and my doctor's I was doing perfectly fine with eating good but my mom didn't think so so she continued to get on my case. If I had one pop during the day she would say " Thats too much sugar and too much salt u can't have that," when she use to eat coney dogs everyday when she was pregnant with me (from what my dad told me). Then after our son (Thadeus) was born I stayed at my parents for a little longer until I got settled into being a new mom. My fiance got 2 weeks off of work to help me and he stayed with us at my parents house. But my mom was alwways ing in, telling us what to do, or telling us were not doing it right basically if we weren't doing what she wanted us to do she would give me a dirty look behind my fiance's back and mouth He's not doing it right. So basically for 2 weeks after my son was born my fiance and mother were ing heads and complainign about eachother to me and what pissed me off is that it wasn't the both of them it was just my mom because my mom basically wasn't letting us take care of our own kid and was making us to do stuff with him that we didn't wanna do. I know I understand people say well it's because she knows how to take care of a kid and is just showing you, no she went beyond that point she didn't show us she tried taking over. Basically she did not like anything or anyway that my fiance took care of our child. Another thing that bothers me is that our son looks like me and my fiance both I mean seriously you can clearly see both of us in him 50/50, but some people don't wanna see it that way. Like my mom, she is alway saying "Oh he looks like his papa oh he looks like his grandma, he looks nothing like Dan (my fiance)," when he doesn't look like my dad at all or my mom he looks clearly like Dan and I both but she always says not really. I mean my parents do a great job being grandparents but it's like "let us do our job as the parents." My mom and I have gotten into a fight once about it and she acted like I was the crazy one lol. But as in my friends, it's one friend....LeAnn. My friend LeAnn is always saying stuff like how my mom is because honestly the older Thadeus gets the more he starts looking like Dan and Thadeus gets his personality from both of us because we are both equally goofy lol. But LeAnn keeps saying "No girl say what u want but he looks like you and is gonna act like u wheter u like it or not he is not like dan." I just don't undertand what is their probelm? Especially with Dan regarding it's only 2 people, but there is no reason either one of them should be like that or say things like that Dan is a good guy hasn't done me wrong or anything like that and we have a pretty good relationship. So please help me figure out what is everyone's probelm lol!